Coming back to center

I  It’s been a crazy few weeks for me. I’ve been in and out of the hospital, dealing with a new diagnosis that actually puts all the of pieces of my health together into one cohesive picture (I have MS), and also working to make our home one of the most comfortable places on earth…mostly for our autistic son…so that he can be relaxed and calm while here and not require so much outside intervention.

I also have entered law school myself, in an effort to use the time I am down dealing with my illnesses to better myself so that when I am capable, I can reenter the working world at a far better position than I was. Granted this is going to be an endeavor that will take quite some time, I have to finish my bachelors degree and then go onto law school itself and pass the bar.

While all this has been going on, the world has moved in it’s pattern around me, and first I want to take a moment to congratulate all of those states for which gay marriage is legal! This is an amazing thing to me, since as a teenager, when I was a member of my gay youth support group, we were always marching and writing letters to congressmen about making marriage legal for us. Thing is, not a single one of us thought that we would see it in our lifetime, we were working to make it possible that it would happen for the next generation. So when I was watching the news with baited breath and seeing that state after state was legalizing that which should never have been illegal in the first place, I was shocked and happy. Of course, I had gotten married before I had my gender marker changed on my license, mainly because the state I was living in at the time was one of the hold outs and the senator was a homophobic prick. I am one of the lucky ones. However, now I have tons of weddings to attend for friends and colleagues alike and nothing could make me happier.

Then, more recently, California made Trans* and gay panic defenses void in court. Meaning, saying that you were afraid that x person was going to hit on me, or that being trans* is so beyond my belief structure that I panicked and killed them, thus blaming the victim, who, of course now is dead and cannot speak for themselves. I have to admit that I was ignorant of the rate at which this defense was being used until I read the article about banning it outright. I also believe that it is a downright shameful thing that this is not a national issue and has not been taken yet to the federal level to protect us nation-wide.

So, while I have been bus dealing with the issues of my family, Children, and health the world has been making strides in making everything equal for us all, and right now I couldn’t be more proud.